Friends, there are earthly and eternal consequences involved if we hang on to our bitterness and refuse to forgive! Bitterness will eat us up like cancer, bitter resentment is emotional suicide, refusing to forgive those who have hurt us will cost us our soul in hell!
Some say, “But you don’t know what the other person did to me!” Maybe I don’t, but God knows; He also knows what you have done to Him when “YOU” have sinned! And it’s a foregone conclusion that you will never have to forgive another person more than God has forgiven you! Here is the bottom line – “If you can’t forgive, don’t ask to be forgiven by God!”
You may need help to work through the issues you are struggling with – get the help, stop making excuses, realize what’s at stake! I know some hurts are really difficult to deal with, but you have to get start dealing with them at some point!
Remember – “To forgive doesn’t mean what the other person did was right – it means that you aren’t going to let what the other person did ruin your life, take your peace, and steal your joy!”
Also remember this – if we say that the person who hurt us – and they may have done a terrible evil and be a real monster, is beyond forgiving, we give them a power they should never have – we give them the power to keep their evil alive in our hearts. We give them the power to condemn us to live forever with the hurting memory of our painful past. We give them the last word.
As C.S. Lewis once said, “To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable, because God has forgiven the inexcusable in you.”
Ephesians 4:31–32: “Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.”
Matthew 6:14-15: “If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.”
Mark 11:25-26: “And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses. But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in heaven forgive your trespasses.”